How do you guys do it? It's so hard even to bring myself to practice...

Have a dream and aspiration and learn to create an unwavering conviction that you will achieve it.

When you see improvements in your voice you will be motivated to train. A good coach can help you with this.

Get enough sleep, stay hydrated and eat plenty of clean carbs to stay fuelled up and get enough good sugars to the brain so you're not in a low energy, bummed out and demotivated state.

You're a vocal athlete, everything must be on point. The diet, the sleep, the training regime, the mindset. All of it compliments each other.

If you hate your current job, think of it as a necessary evil to help finance your future career. Make sure it is actually doing that by learning how to budget so you're actually saving money.

When finances are a thing of the past the pressure of time and survival disappears.

Spend more time doing the things you love. If you just want to sing just do that. Enjoy yourself first and foremost, then start squeezing in the technique and theory as you gain the confidence and motivation to do so. Maybe you just want to write some tunes now and not even think about the voice. whatever it is, listen to that intuition and get in touch with your true desires.

Never complain to yourself in your mind. always ask questions instead. instead of "i'll never be able to do this" change it to "how can i learn how to do this?" your brain needs questions to work on to give you solutions, if you just complain there's nothing to work on, it just ends there.

If you live with family or people that bring you down then you need to distance yoruself from that type of negative energy.

Take responsibility and don't blame other things or people. whenever you blame something you are denying your own power, you're saying you have no control over things. when you believe you have no control, you will keep losing control until you truly have none.

Think like a successful person in order to become a successful person.

these are ideas to put in practice consistently over time and distance.

There is more, but hopefully that is a start.

If you ever want to send me an email to get more personal about this sort of stuff don't hesitate, shoot me one on phil.moufarrege@gmail.com

cheers,

Phil Moufarrege
http://www.grow-the-voice.com
http://www.bushido-self-improvement.com

What do you mean by 'clean carbs' and 'good sugars?' Where would I find them?

It's also happened with guitar, whenever I get to trying to learn a solo. If I don't have immediate success, like I have had with vocals, at least transcending tone, I tend to give up and not try. Falsetto probably has come easier to me, but I'm not sure if I'm doing it right...I may record a couple of slides and post them to find out.

you find them in plant whole-foods: fruits, vegetables and grains.

there's lots behind lack of motivation. I used to have it to. For me it was health related, my health was deteriorating so it was like everyrhing was just a huge freaking effort for me so I if I didn't get immediate results I'd just lay it off.

For you it may or may not be health related, you may even just need a kick in the ass, but many people aren't really healthy anyway lol. i don't know much about you or your situation so it's hard to say.

think about all the above points i posted in the first email. what do you think of them and how they relate to you? I don't really know much about you.


cheers,

Phil Moufarrege
http://www.grow-the-voice.com
http://www.bushido-self-improvement.com

Get a picture of a really really good looking girl. Whenever in doubt look at the picture and remember why we really practice singing that much for

Cheers

Should have called that one haha!

If you aren't motivate to practice then you don't want it bad enough. When you have that burning desire within you, and don't focus just on dreaming about being an amazing singer, BUT, you truly want it so bad you can taste it, well, then you'll be practicing your butt off;)

Ok I'm going to give you some real advice because we all pretty much know the "If you aint making it happen, then you aren't happening" type stuff.

Get a somewhat dull job or hobby where you stand and don't have to concentrate much. Sing your ass off while you do that job.

For me it's having a really crappy dishwasher that forces me to have do lots of stuff by hand.

For you it might be sorting papers, folding laundry, whatever.

I also love yard work while singing rock and grit. Screaming and improving about it's "Chop! Chop! Choooop!" or "Buh--leeed Weed!"

If your neighbors stare at you just laugh and turn on the radio.

Seriously, this Disney/Musical sing while you work stuff works.

Tried to do exercises while doing the dishes and my dad yelled at me :(. I can only sing when no one else is in the house, and that rarely happens. I might record some falsetto slides starting at about F4 because I could never get falsetto at middle C because my core of resonance was in my chest.

It took me a while to get lip bubbles.

I used to be able to get half-baked ones by pressing or squeezing my cheeks but then it would pitter out.

What they don't tell you is that you have to use your lips and mouth and squeeze them together with just the right amount of tension--often with a little lower jaw jut.

NO ONE SAYS THIS OR DEMOS THIS!

Instead it's, 'oh yeah just blow and stay relaxed'. All you do is look like your spitting on yourself or buzzing air.



Anyways, I'll have to try skullsplitters vaccum tuning next time I hear one.

Recorded some falsetto slides
Sorry for the quality, I was using my cell phone.

https://drive.google.com/?authuser=0#folders/0B0VXrQMfmvKoaTNWemFSQkJfTWM

They are in the zip...